Struggling in your relationship or confused or down after one has ended?
Has your partner expressed it being hard to talk to you? Maybe they've told you they think you have an "anger" problem or are "too distant." You might often feel frustrated with feeling heard or understood and struggle to really communicate the things you want or need.
I work with individuals and couples to help them explore themselves on a deep level, develop positive communication strategies, and demolish any limiting beliefs they might have about themselves or their relationship so they can truly "show up" for themselves and their partner. Getting relationship therapy or marriage counseling before this takes place can be pivotal to you and your partner's relationship.
Unfortunately, we might only be willing to explore these issues after a relationship has ended. This can often be a pivotal time in our lives for asking these critical questions. When a romantic relationship has ended in our lives, it can be a very tough thing to cope with. We often ask ourselves, "Where did I go wrong?" or "What's wrong with me?" This can be especially amplified if there is a pattern of unsuccessful relationships. Relationship therapy or breakup counseling can be helpful in this area.
Though there are many reasons such as generational patterns/upbringing, trauma, or self-esteem issues, it could be due to lack of clarity of what we want, realistic expectations, or just knowing how to even communicate these when we are considering a potential mate. Exploring these relational patterns can be pivotal in changing them to find a partner that is a good and healthy match for us. Not all therapists are trained in as a relationship therapist or marriage therapist so working with someone who has the training and knowledge to help you navigate relationship issues can make a big difference when it comes to healing.